Something that I struggle with in New York is the idea of not being or doing enough. It’s not that I compare myself to others, but rather, it’s the fact that New York is great at selling you the idea of perfection and “success”. I think New York is the world’s greatest marketer because you really are paying for an experience or feeling whenever you come here.
New York City
The SELL: You are on fire. Your job is rewarding, high-paying, and you work with the brightest and most passionate people out there.
The REALITY: There is some component of your job that you hate and you work with some pretty robotic privileged people. There is no such thing as a free lunch and you pay for everything you get in some way, shape, or form.
The SELL: You have endless energy to work 80 hour weeks, drink 3X a week on rooftop bars, and you’re taxi-ing from Eleven Madison Park to Per Se every weekend in between shopping at Chanel for your parents!
The REALITY: You are pretty tired from working and the idea of going out isn’t fun except for special occasions. It costs $10 to leave your apartment and $20 for a cocktail and $500 later, you have no money.
The SELL: The subway means endless opportunities to travel and hustle about the city!
The REALITY: The next train is 18 minutes away and it’s packed from delays so your nose is now touching someone’s armpit. The last time the NYC Metro was cleaned was in 1828 and your white shoes are now black. Congrats.
The SELL: There are a million people here so you’ll definitely find a significant other fast!
The REALITY: New York is known to be lonely for a reason.
The SELL: You’ll walk a lot and therefore be super skinny!
The REALITY: You’ll walk a lot, but you’ll also drink and eat out a lot.
The SELL: You pay more in rent, but you also get paid more!
The REALITY: Except for people in Finance, this doesn’t really apply. It’s more that some jobs exist here that don’t exist anywhere else. For example, if you want to work at Saks Fifth Avenue, you’re going to be in New York whether you like it or not, but they’re not necessarily going to give you $100,000 just to do entry-level positions to pay your $2,000 Manhattan rent.
The Real SELL that you don’t see: Learning to find a way to YES. You find a way to make it work; to pay rent; to get to your destination when 3/4 of your transportation options are out of the picture. It isn’t all glitz & glam, but that’s kinda what makes this city interesting.